Post by Steve Orbit on Oct 7, 2013 17:01:33 GMT -5
So, this is a tough part of e-fedding for some people, maybe for everyone, I'm not sure.
For me, when I first started to really get into e-fedding (when I joined WCF last year), I thought I was getting screwed every time I lost. I thought there was an established group of guys here who never lost, especially to a new guy like me. Just being honest, that's how I felt.
Then I hung around for a while, and I realized that the established guys ranged from really good to freaking incredible writers. I had to take a step back and realize that I'm here with people who are really good at this, and that made me love this place even more.
A few things I've come to understand--
I'm always gonna think my RP is better. Always. No matter what. I am proud of my work, I take it seriously and personally, so I'm always gonna think I should win. However, that's not always the case. That's why we have a person who judges and I've found that he does an excellent job of judging fairly. I've brushed off many, many losses, but there have been a few that I've had a real issue with-- and each time, I talked to Seth about it, and he gave me an honest explanation. It made me feel better and it made me understand how I can become a better writer, and it DROVE me to want to become a better writer.
EVERYONE wants to win. That's why we're here. So when I say to myself, wtf, I spent all these hours and energy writing my RP and I lost? Well, my opponent did too. My opponent wanted to win just as much as I did. There's no "deserving" around here, there's no entitlements or hand outs. There's unbiased RP judging, period. That's what makes WCF special, and it's what makes Seth freaking awesome at his job as the fed head.
It can't be about winning or losing. That can't be what drives you to do this. It has to be about the passion behind your writing, and wanting to be a part of this community. When I do that, I have an awesome experience here. When I focus on my wins or losses, I'm being selfish and I'm not having fun. It's hard sometimes, and I definitely get emotional at times (I'm human), but I really try to focus on the storyline. If I take a tough loss, I try to work it into my character and build on it. I try to use it as fuel, and I noticed that my toughest losses were exactly what I needed at that time, a kick in the ass if you want to say it like that.
In real wrestling, nobody is undefeated. It's no different here. There's a few people who's losses are few and far between, but they are the hardest working people here hands down, writing mind blowing stuff for every single win. That's just the way it is in WCF if you really take a step back and look at the entire fed as a story.
I'd love for others to share their thoughts on how they deal with losing or if it bothers them or not.
For me, when I first started to really get into e-fedding (when I joined WCF last year), I thought I was getting screwed every time I lost. I thought there was an established group of guys here who never lost, especially to a new guy like me. Just being honest, that's how I felt.
Then I hung around for a while, and I realized that the established guys ranged from really good to freaking incredible writers. I had to take a step back and realize that I'm here with people who are really good at this, and that made me love this place even more.
A few things I've come to understand--
I'm always gonna think my RP is better. Always. No matter what. I am proud of my work, I take it seriously and personally, so I'm always gonna think I should win. However, that's not always the case. That's why we have a person who judges and I've found that he does an excellent job of judging fairly. I've brushed off many, many losses, but there have been a few that I've had a real issue with-- and each time, I talked to Seth about it, and he gave me an honest explanation. It made me feel better and it made me understand how I can become a better writer, and it DROVE me to want to become a better writer.
EVERYONE wants to win. That's why we're here. So when I say to myself, wtf, I spent all these hours and energy writing my RP and I lost? Well, my opponent did too. My opponent wanted to win just as much as I did. There's no "deserving" around here, there's no entitlements or hand outs. There's unbiased RP judging, period. That's what makes WCF special, and it's what makes Seth freaking awesome at his job as the fed head.
It can't be about winning or losing. That can't be what drives you to do this. It has to be about the passion behind your writing, and wanting to be a part of this community. When I do that, I have an awesome experience here. When I focus on my wins or losses, I'm being selfish and I'm not having fun. It's hard sometimes, and I definitely get emotional at times (I'm human), but I really try to focus on the storyline. If I take a tough loss, I try to work it into my character and build on it. I try to use it as fuel, and I noticed that my toughest losses were exactly what I needed at that time, a kick in the ass if you want to say it like that.
In real wrestling, nobody is undefeated. It's no different here. There's a few people who's losses are few and far between, but they are the hardest working people here hands down, writing mind blowing stuff for every single win. That's just the way it is in WCF if you really take a step back and look at the entire fed as a story.
I'd love for others to share their thoughts on how they deal with losing or if it bothers them or not.